Welcome to The Grown-Up Girls Report Book Club!
I have a marvellous book for you this week – UnTamed by Glennon Doyle. And I’m taking a deep dive on this beauty with the lovely Mandy Newman – author and English guru extraordinaire. Both Mandy and I think Untamed is a standout book for 2020. But be warned – this book is a gut punch, it will prompt you to rethink, dive deep and examine what you need to do to regain your true self. It is the sort of book that will want to read again, take copious amounts of notes from and keep permanently on your bedside table. Just like Maybe You Should Talk To Someone, it also has loads of ‘aha’ moments!
Untamed is Glennon Doyle’s 3rd book. While the book details the breakdown of her marriage to her husband and the love story between herself and wife Abbie Wambach, at its core it explores the joy and peace that is all within reach when we stop striving to meet others expectations and start trusting the deep voice within us – Glennon refers to this as ‘The Knowing’.
Why Did We Choose This Book?
Apart from being one of the most talked about books of 2020, this book taps into the confusion and discontent many women feel, particularly then they hit middle age. Glennon believes that many women strive to be good partners, daughters, mothers, employees, and friends in the hope that this will make us feel alive. But instead it can leave us feeling weary, stuck, overwhelmed, and underwhelmed. Many of us often lose our self in service to others. We look at our lives and wonder: Wasn’t it all supposed to be more beautiful than this? We quickly silence that question, telling ourselves to be grateful, hiding our discontent–even from ourselves. This book is a guidebook for women looking for clarity – it will jolt you, and help you understand the multiple ways women have been conditioned to put their own lives and happiness on hold to serve others.
The singer Adele credits this book with changing her life. She admitted after reading it that she never knew she was ‘solely responsible’ for finding joy in her life until reading the book. She told her Instagram followers that the book will ‘shake your brain and make your soul scream’. Here is what she had to say:
‘I am so ready for myself after reading this book! It’s as if I just flew into my body for the very first time. Whew! Anyone who has any kind of capacity to truly let go and give into yourself with any kind of desire to hold on for dear life – Do it. Read it. Live it. Practice it.” she wrote.
“I never knew that I am solely responsible for my own joy, happiness and freedom!! Who knew our own liberation liberates those around us? Cause I didn’t!! I thought we were meant to be stressed and disheveled, confused and selfless like a Disney character!“
And in case you need another reason to open this book – an endorsement from the incredible Brene Brown: ‘Some books shake you by the shoulder while others steal your heart. In Untamed, Glennon does both at the exact same time.’
So, you can see why we had to read it…
About Glennon Doyle
Before writing Untamed, Glennon wrote Carry On, Warrior and Love Warrior – both New York Times Bestsellers. Described as an activist and thought leader, she is also the founder and president of Together Rising, an all-women led nonprofit organization that has revolutionized grassroots philanthropy – raising over $25 million for women, families, and children in crisis. She lives in Florida with her wife and three children.
Alex and Mandy’s Favourite ‘Aha’ Moments From The Book
- The importance of feeling everything and sitting with pain.
- Pain is not tragic. Pain is magic.
- Rockbottom is the start of something new.
- Uncomfortable truth/comfortable lies – what are we prepared to live with?
- The story of Tabitha the Cheetah who had been ‘tamed’ to live like a labrador but who still instinctively yearned for the wild!
- Many women are indoctrinated to believe that the best way for a woman to love her partner, family and community is to lose herself in service to them.
- There is no greater burden on a child than the unlived life of parent.
- Girls born into a patriarchal society become either shrewd or sick. Glennon was taught that girls had to be small, quiet, pretty accommodating and pleasant. She believes this narrative made her very sick.
- Children are either taught by the adults in their lives to see cages and rise above them or they are trained to surrender to them.
- Every time you have a choice between disappointing someone else and yourself, you duty is to disappoint someone else.
- The braver we are, the luckier we are.
Mandy and I both loved this book but it does come with a warning – it may unleash a ‘Pandora’s Box’ of emotions. But Mandy and I both believe that this book is the ideal handbook to middle-age life! If you are feeling stuck, unsure about how to move forward in life or how to get back to your true self – then this is the book for you!
I am busting to read it again and take more notes. One of my absolute faves of 2020!!
Happy reading everyone! You can listen to my chat with Mandy on the podcast via the link below or your favourite podcast app.