Welcome to book club!

We have a beauty for you this week – Maybe You Should Talk To Someone by Lori Gottlieb is one of Alex and Mandy’s favourite books of 2020! While it is described as a memoir, it is riddled with multiple ‘aha’ moments that kept Alex and Mandy captivated. In fact, both girls took pages of notes and want to read the book again!

Mandy and Alex (L to R)

The book details Lori’s journey with therapy alongside the story of 4 of her own patients in therapy. And please don;t worry that these stories were shared inappropriately as written permission was provided by all the patients and Lori has removed any identifying features in the patients’ stories.

Lori started her career with NBC and worked on hit shows ER and Friends. But when working on ER, she realised how intrigued she was with the world of medicine and returned to university and studied medicine. But after a few years studying medicine, she had an epiphany and realised that if she became a therapist she could she could combine her love of story with medicine.

Why Did We Chose This Book?

Published in 2019, this book was an instant New York Times Bestseller. It was the Amazon book of the year and received rave reviews everywhere! It is also currently being developed into a television series with Eva Longoria and ABC.

“This is a daring, delightful, and transformative book.”—Arianna Huffington, Founder, Huffington Post and Founder & CEO, Thrive Global.

Alex and Mandy’s Favourite ‘Aha’ Moments from the book

– Idiot Compassion – this is when you don’t rock the boat to spare people’s feelings. Instead you soothe and avoid delivering truth bombs.

– Peace does not mean no noise, trouble or hard work. It means to be in the midst of things and still be calm in your heart.

– Feelings hold important clues

– Don’t judge your feelings. Notice them. Use them as your map. Don’t be afraid of the truth.

‘Welcome to Holland’, an incredible poem by Emily Perl Kingsley who is a parent of a child with Down Syndrome. She wrote the poem to comfort other parents struggling to accept their own special needs situations. The poem is all about having your life expectations turned upside down and Alex, in particular, found this incredibly helpful.

– The inspiring story of Austrian Jewish psychiatrist Victor Frankl who wrote an incredible work on resilience and spiritual salvation called ‘Man’s Search for Meaning’. A Jewish man, Frankl lost his wife, brother and both parents in the Holocaust in WW2. Now, this could have led to despair but instead he used his earlier life wok on logotheraphy and wrote an incredible piece on resilience and salvation entitled ‘Man’s Search For Meaning’:

‘everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms – to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances.’

After WW2, Frankl remarried, had a daughter, published prolifically and spoke around the world till his death at 92.

The Verdict

Alex and Mandy both gave this book a 10! They believe everyone should read it and that it has the ability to reframe how you see therapy. They both though it was funny and so incredibly well written with so many life lessons to be potentially adopted.

Happy reading everyone! You can listen to Alex and Mandy’s full chat on the podcast via the link below or your favourite podcast app.

Alex xx